It was the initial crack of my first broken heart that rattled deep within my bones, but when my bestfriend wrapped me in her arms, looked me straight in the eye, and told me that I was actually lucky because it would never hurt this much again, I felt relief. It was as if someone had opened a window in my chest and my heart could finally breathe.
I wasn’t sure if she was just trying to get me to stop crying, or if there was some actual truth in her bits of wisdom, but I was willing to believe.
Eventually I was able to let go of the fear that I would never be happy again, and the fear that I would never find love. I was then able to pluck each fear from chest like a match stick and flick it out the open window. Yes, these fears would burn brightly at first, but they would also smoke and sizzle out. I just needed to be patient, blow them out myself, and be reminded of this awesome power we each have to heal ourselves. That is why I created this list of 22 ways to heal your first broken heart. Keep what is useful to you, skip over what is not, and trust your intuition.
22 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart
- Determine if you have a support system amongst your family and friends, or if you need to seek professional help.
*You can read more how to tell your parents you are depressed HERE
- Volunteer. Focus on those who could use your help.
- Go outside, reconnect with nature and the stars.
- Treat yourself to a mini makeover. It can make you feel like a new person, and it is symbolic of your transformation. It can be something as simple as a hair cut or wearing a new hat.
- Take a break from social media.
- Make playlists. Lots of playlists. Make individual playlists for the people you care about.
- Write an “un-poisoned” pen letter to your ex as a way to release anger (do not send it).
*You can learn how to write an “un-poisoned” pen letter HERE.
- Increase wellbeing through a healthy diet and exercise plan; chart your progress.
- Ask yourself what you can learn from this experience and believe in that life lesson.
- Write sappy love poetry and read it to your pets or at coffee shop open-mics
- Volunteer to read to children at your local library.
- Rearrange your bedroom, dorm, or closet.
- Rededicate yourself to your studies or job. Completely throw yourself into it and see where it takes you.
- Cook or bake something awesome.
- Enter a online filmmaking, writing, or video game contest.
- Do activities from your childhood such as play on the swings or blow bubbles.
- Avoid only focusing on the good times, acknowledge there were also bad times.
- Train for a marathon (P.S. A Netflix marathon totally counts)!
- Take a workshop at your local community college. They offer non-credit classes such as jewelry making, photography, kick-boxing, and rock-climbing, etc.
- Avoid taking or assigning all of the blame. Accept your part without making it someone’s fault.
- Take a break from your routine and go on a trip with friends and/or family.
- Make plans for your future. Set one-year, three-year, and five-year goals for yourself. Determine what steps you need to follow to reach those goals. Write it all out and start making it happen, one step at the time.